
The Tower from The Vanessa Deck
This is a Tarot reading for anyone who is approaching or fully in menopause and beyond.
But first, a bit about my inspiration for this. Have you heard of Melani Sanders and her We Do Not Care Club, of which I am a proud menopausal member?
If you haven’t, and about to embark or fully immersed in what they tactfully call “the change,” I suggest looking her up and following her. I know that takes some of our precious energy, but it’s worth it. I promise.
As for the “the change” itself, I give it a 0 out of 10. Do NOT recommend. However, there are some perks, for example, your own personal “power surges” may save you money on your heating bill.
Anyhow, in the spirit of the We Do Not Care Club, I’m going to do a 3-card, past-present-future card reading with The Vanessa Tarot Deck. I chose this deck because it features powerful goddesses living on their own terms.
The Spread

The Reading
The first thing I notice about this spread is that two of the three cards are from the Major Arcana. In Tarot, the 12 cards in the Major Arcana represent overarching life themes and archetypes. The 56 cards in Minor Arcana are representative of the things that happen to us on a daily level. So, since we no longer have patience for the petty, silly things that surround us, it’s no wonder most of the cards in the spread are Major Arcana.
Past: Queen of Cups (reversed)
Upright, the Queen of Cups symbolizes softness, passion, and sensitivity. The Queen is ruled by her heart and intuition. Emotions overflow everywhere.
But why is she reversed here? Well, I can only speak for myself but maybe you’ll relate. When I was younger, I was a mess with no control over my emotions. What I thought was intuition turned out to be naivete combined with anxiety and depression. Like I said, a mess, or in other words, the Queen of Cups reversed.
But that leads us to . . .
Present: The High Priestess
The High Priestess is the symbol of power and wisdom. She is confident and she knows things. She may forget these things from time to time, but give her a minute, they’ll come back to her. Maybe.
We now have our emotions in check (at least most of the time). We can still be nurturing and caring, but if we’re going to be, we’re going to do it on our terms. We live by our intuition, only now our intuition is shaped by experience. We’re not afraid to show our emotions, but at the same time, we often just don’t care.
Future: The Magician
The Magician represents power, resourcefulness, and skill. At this point and moving forward, we know what we want and we know how to get it.
And if what we want is to spend the weekend on the couch in ripped sweats and old, stained band T-shirt, watching terrible movies, and drinking delicious coffee, so be it.
Go get it, girl!
But only if you feel like it.




